By The Intuition Bureau
We live in a society filled with gold diggers.
They are everywhere.
And when I use the term gold digger, I am not simply talking about women looking for wealthy men. I am talking about a type of person. A mentality. A way of moving through the world.
Men can be gold diggers. Women can be gold diggers. Friends can be gold diggers. Family members can be gold diggers. Lovers, business associates, spiritual advisers, politicians, acquaintances, and people who suddenly become interested in you once your life begins moving upward can all be gold diggers.
A gold digger is someone whose affection for you is connected to what they believe they can extract from you.
Money.
Status.
Housing.
Connections.
Sex.
Influence.
Security.
Access.
Opportunity.
A lifestyle.
Sometimes they don’t even want what you currently have. They are digging for the gold they believe is buried inside your future.
And that can make them particularly difficult to spot.
We have built a culture where materialism is so thoroughly mixed with relationships that sometimes it becomes almost impossible to tell who truly loves you and who simply loves what being connected to you might provide.
That is dangerous.
Because love and extraction can look remarkably similar in the beginning.
Both can smile at you.
Both can compliment you.
Both can hold your hand.
Both can tell you how wonderful you are.
Both can tell you they believe in your future.
Both can say, “I love you.”
But only one remains love when there is nothing to extract.
The Bible warned us about this thousands of years ago.
Solomon writes in Proverbs:
“For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil:
But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a twoedged sword.
Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.”
Proverbs 5:3–5 (KJV)
Forget the gender for a moment and examine the principle.
The lips are sweet.
The words are smooth.
The destination is destruction.
That is the warning.
Something can sound like love while leading you directly toward suffering.
Solomon returns to the same warning in Proverbs 7. He describes someone being seduced through flattering speech:
“With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him.”
Proverbs 7:21 (KJV)
And then comes the part people should pay attention to:
“He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter...”
Proverbs 7:22 (KJV)
That is powerful imagery.
An ox walking toward the slaughter does not understand where the road ends.
Everything may appear fine.
One more step.
Then another.
Then another.
That is how destructive relationships often work.
Rarely does someone walk into your life announcing:
“I am here to use you.”
They arrive bearing sweetness.
They arrive bearing attraction.
They arrive bearing promises.
They arrive bearing sympathy.
They arrive telling you precisely what you have been waiting to hear.
And sometimes the trap is not what they say.
The trap is how badly you want to believe it.
That is why discernment matters.
Gold Diggers Can Take You to the Grave
People sometimes laugh about gold diggers as though they are merely an annoyance.
I don’t.
The wrong relationship can destroy a person’s life.
People have lost businesses because of relationships.
They have lost homes.
They have destroyed relationships with their children.
They have emptied retirement accounts.
They have ruined their credit.
They have abandoned friends.
They have betrayed family members.
They have compromised careers.
They have committed crimes.
They have destroyed their health.
Some have lost their freedom.
Some have lost their lives.
All because they allowed another person’s sweet words to override what their own intuition was telling them.
Gold diggers create trouble because extraction can never become genuine love.
Once a relationship is fundamentally based upon what one person can obtain from another, there will always be another demand.
Another emergency.
Another purchase.
Another sacrifice.
Another favor.
Another test of your love.
Another reason you need to prove yourself.
Another boundary they need you to surrender.
The appetite grows.
Ecclesiastes says:
“He that loveth silver shall not be satisfied with silver; nor he that loveth abundance with increase...”
Ecclesiastes 5:10 (KJV)
That is the problem with greed.
It does not know when it has eaten enough.
You cannot fill a bottomless stomach.
Look Beyond the Words
One of the most powerful descriptions of false affection in Scripture comes from Ezekiel:
“With their mouth they shew much love, but their heart goeth after their covetousness.”
Ezekiel 33:31 (KJV)
Read that again.
Their mouth shows love.
Their heart follows covetousness.
There it is.
That is the entire problem.
What is coming from the mouth and what is taking place inside the heart are two different things.
This is why I constantly talk about discernment.
Words alone are not enough.
Beauty is not enough.
Chemistry is not enough.
Sex is not enough.
Charm is not enough.
Promises are not enough.
Butterflies are certainly not enough.
You have to watch people.
Watch what happens when you tell them no.
Watch what happens when you establish a boundary.
Watch how interested they are in your thoughts compared with your resources.
Watch whether every conversation eventually circles back to what they need.
Watch how they treat people who cannot do anything for them.
Watch whether their affection grows when your circumstances improve and disappears when your circumstances become difficult.
Watch whether they are interested in helping you build or merely interested in enjoying what you have built.
Most importantly, watch the fruit.
A person can manufacture words.
It is much harder to manufacture fruit over time.
Be Patient
One of the best protections against gold diggers is something our society has almost completely abandoned:
Patience.
Slow down.
You do not have to decide immediately that someone is your soulmate.
You do not have to merge your finances.
You do not have to move them into your home.
You do not have to introduce them to every important person you know.
You do not have to reveal every detail about your business.
You do not have to disclose everything you possess.
You do not have to rescue them.
You do not have to prove your love by opening your wallet.
Let time do some investigative work for you.
Time is an incredible detective.
People can maintain an act for a weekend.
Some can maintain it for several months.
It becomes much harder to maintain a false identity indefinitely.
Eventually, motivations begin leaking through the cracks.
Be patient enough to see them.
Seek Something Higher
The answer is not paranoia.
The answer is not becoming cold.
The answer is certainly not hating people.
And the answer is not assuming everyone who comes into your life wants something from you.
That would allow fear to destroy exactly what you were trying to protect.
The answer is Universal Love combined with discernment.
Love people because they are human beings created by God.
But understand that loving someone does not require giving them unrestricted access to your life.
You can love someone and tell them no.
You can love someone and maintain separate finances.
You can love someone and refuse to rescue them.
You can love someone and refuse manipulation.
You can love someone and walk away.
You can love someone from across the street.
You can even love someone from across the planet.
Universal Love does not require universal access.
That distinction is important.
The higher form of love is not based on beauty, money, status, sex, power, or what another human being can provide.
It says:
I recognize the divine value inside you even when you have nothing to give me.
That is the love we should be searching for.
Not someone hypnotized by our gold.
Someone capable of seeing us.
Because eventually the money changes.
Bodies change.
Careers change.
Status changes.
Health changes.
Influence changes.
Everything material eventually changes.
And when the material reasons for loving someone disappear, only the real thing remains.
So be patient.
Keep your eyes open.
Listen carefully.
Watch the fruit.
Trust your intuition.
Pray for discernment.
And never allow sweet words to drag you toward a destination your spirit has already warned you about.
There are gold diggers as far as the eyes can see.
But there are also people capable of genuine love.
The challenge is learning the difference.
And sometimes the only way to discover whether someone loves you or loves your gold is to stop showing them where the gold is buried.
The Intuition Bureau
Discern. Decode. Empower.